Ever had that sinking feeling at work where you think, “I should be happy—I’m getting paid well… so why does this still feel empty?” Well, you’re not broken, and you’re definitely not alone. It’s not about laziness or lack of gratitude—it’s about some core psychological needs that, when missing, can make even the best job feel hollow.
We all know we need the basics to survive—food, water, shelter. But just like our bodies need those, our careers need certain things too. And if they’re missing, it can spark restlessness, burnout, or even thoughts of a career change.
Here are the three big ones:
1. Competence = Knowing You Have Worthwhile Skills
This is about feeling effective, skilled, and capable of making a positive impact at work.
Many people considering a career change tell me they just want to feel like they’re good at something again. It’s not about perfection—it’s about progress. When you feel you’re learning, developing new skills, and adding value, your job satisfaction soars. Without it you feel frustration and self-doubt.
2. Autonomy = Not Feeling Like a Robot
Nobody wants to clock in every day only to feel like a cog in the machine. Autonomy means having at least some freedom to make decisions, shape how you work, and bring your unique skills to the table.
If you’ve ever felt micromanaged, you know how demotivating it can be. On the flip side, when you’re trusted to make choices, you gain confidence and motivation. This sense of ownership is often a turning point for people deciding whether to stay put or seek a new career path.
3. Relatedness = Having “Your People” at Work
Call it belonging, connection, or just having work buddies—it matters. Humans are social creatures, and that need doesn’t disappear when we log into Zoom or sit at our desks.
Strong relationships at work can be the reason people stay in a role, even if the job itself isn’t perfect. On the other hand, loneliness or disconnection can push someone to look for a fresh start in a new career. If you’re working from home, this one can be especially tricky—but it’s worth finding ways to connect.
Time for a Career Check-In
If you’re thinking about a career change, ask yourself:
- Do I feel competent and valued in my role?
- Do I have autonomy over my work?
- Do I feel connected to my colleagues or team?
If the answer is “no” to any of these, that might explain why you’re feeling stuck, unmotivated, or restless. The good news? You don’t always need a dramatic leap to improve things. Sometimes it’s small steps—seeking feedback, asking for more responsibility, or reconnecting with coworkers.
But if you’ve tried and it still feels flat, it could be your sign that a bigger shift—a genuine career change—is worth exploring.
Because thriving at work isn’t about the biggest payslip. It’s about career fulfillment, motivation, and growth—the things that make you want to show up on Monday morning with energy instead of dread.