How many times have you had a job interview recently? Are you getting fed up with all the setbacks. How are you coping with rejection?
Don't worry, you are not the only one!
Setbacks and difficulties occur all of the time – they are a natural activity of life.
There are two ways of facing difficulties:
- you either change or alter the difficulty or
- you can alter yourself to be able to deal with it.
Deal with difficulties correctly and it will enhance your confidence, deal with them incorrectly and they can do some serious damage to your self worth.
Your Response to Rejection
When you are faced with any setback your ability to deal with it can be turned around into a position of strength by asking yourself positive empowering questions.
There is an unwritten rule that says:
Ask your mind a stupid question and you will get a stupid answer!
So, if after a job interview setback you ask yourself something like
'Why does this always happen to me, I never have any luck?'
Your mind will probably come out with:
'Because you are useless and good things do not happen to you!'
Sound familiar?
Instead, if you ask yourself a positive empowering question like:
'What did I learn from this setback for next time?'
Your mind will kick into solution mode and help.
Here are 3 rules and things to think about when setbacks do occur:
- Acknowledge that it has happened. Don't hide from it. These things happen. So what?
- What positive empowering questions can you ask yourself?
- What is good about this situation?
- How can I make the most of this situation?
- What can I learn from it?
- What are the facts about this problem?
- How can we make it a successful outcome?
2. Acknowledge that setbacks occur to everyone and you are not being singled out.
3. View rejection as a challenge to overcome rather than an issue or problem
4. It might be the last thing you feel like doing but seek feedback from the employer. Find out about the areas you can improve on. It's especially useful if you end up applying for the same job some time in the future.
Think about the negative dis-empowering thoughts that you think on a regular basis after a job hunting setback.
What new empowering questions could you ask yourself to give some better answers? Write these down now and make them a habit.
If all else fails, watch how this man deals with a rejection letter and click here